So here comes a new year. There is a distinct psychology that surrounds this time of year. It is one of renewal, resolution, starting anew etc. A great deal of information is offered on the infamous “new year’s resolutions” along with the seemingly ubiquitous advertising for fitness, weight loss, financial plans, etc. In addition, there is information about the down side of resolutions, specifically the fact that so few people actually stick to them and therefore experience failure. So it seems best to be as realistic as possible about resolutions while taking advantage of the psychological atmosphere at this time of year.
How does this play out with regard to our tranquillity? I realize there are many reasons for our inner life to be disrupted, from news stories to toxic family members. So I have a few suggestions that might help:
Place inner peace near the top of your value hierarchy: We all have a hierarchy of values whether we have thought about them or not. Think about what is truly most important to you. Where does your inner peace fit into this? Here’s a little hint to make this process a bit easier: your first and therefore highest value is the fact that you are alive. I know that seems obvious, but it’s helpful to start with this. What kind of life do you want to be living? Somewhere in this question will be where you place inner peace or serenity.
Decide to live more serenely: This one is simple yet overlooked. If you have identified serenity as a value that is near the top of the list, it becomes important to remind yourself of its value. So when faced with a decision about an event, relationship, activity etc., try to include its worth in terms of the value you have placed on serenity.
Note the amount of peace in relationships: This one may be quite challenging. With each and every encounter you have with people in your life, make a mental note of the level of peace that encounter brings. For example, if you are having a conversation with someone and it is easy and fun with an atmosphere of pleasure about it, notice this. It can be a simple encounter with a pleasant store clerk or a long, meaningful conversation with a friend. What is noteworthy is that it contributes to your serenity simply by its ease and pleasantness. On the other hand, make note of those encounters and relationships that are difficult, antagonistic, and filled with conflict. If you have placed a high value on serenity, it will become apparent that its attainment involves minimizing the conflicting relationships and maximizing the pleasant ones.
These suggestions can help you orient your life towards a more tranquil existence. They are guidelines that you will modify as required. If you have some more strategies for increasing your inner peace, please comment below.
Oh, and Peaceful New Year! 🙂