Prior to my mother dying, I had been told about this book. It was recommended as a way to understand the process of dying so I would have a better idea of what to expect. Like many, I was reluctant to read a book about dying. The whole idea gave me a dark, fearful feeling that dominated my reaction to the suggestion that I read it. However, I contacted the author through her website and ordered it anyway, thinking I might actually read it someday.
The book arrived too soon and I promptly put it on my bookshelf. After all, I had lots of other more important reading to do. But something about the topic of dying quietly gnawed at me. Particularly compelling was the fact that the recommendation had come from my friend and martial arts teacher John Painter, who had experienced a death in his family and was telling me this book was the best one he’d read on this topic. He and I have a deep connection and we take each other’s suggestions seriously. So I opened the book.
Below I’ve posted the description of the book from Amazon. To this I will add that my experience of reading the book was enlightening to say the least. It contains information about the dying process which alleviated a great deal of that dark, fearful feeling mentioned above.Â This was due to the fact that I now had a better understanding of the process which lessened the mystery and fear. Most importantly, it helped me realize that the process of dying is indeed an act of living, albeit the last one. But it is completely normal and natural. It is this naturalness that stayed with me after finishing the book. Each stage of dying is supposed to happen and is not something to be “fixed”.
Finally, and this is very important, the book does not suggest for a minute that losing a loved one is not a sad event, to be grieved. Only that it is a normal event that is part of being alive and therefore not to be as fearful as we generally make it.
The author of Gone From My Sight, My Friend, I Care and A Time to Live, shares her insights and perceptions from years of working with people during the final act of living. Now her lectures and ideas have been put on paper. This book is written in a simple, direct yet gentle style as it explores the signs of approaching death from disease, the normal grieving process, living wills, Durable Power of Attorney and other end of life issues.